GET CUFFED UP! INCORPORATING HANDCUFFS IN YOUR SEX LIFE

Would you want to explore bondage sex? Incorporating handcuffs in your sex life could be the best choice. Tips for enjoying cuffs include discussions, rehearsals, and getting the right cuffs.

Cuffs are used as restraints for bondage sex. BDSM involves several activities, as explained by De Neef et al. (2019). For sexually adventurous people, getting cuffed can be a great role-play idea. Anyone who wants to venture into their kinky side, especially when considering bondage and dominance, will have to pick cuffs as one of the items to use. The person in bondage has no choice but to submit to their partner. Getting cuffed up can be enjoyable to people who want to be subdued by their partner. The dominant partner then decides the course that the sexual experience will take. Bondage may seem awkward to people who are insecure about their bodies. They may also be strange to the people who find them too crazy for their liking. The following are some steps that you can take to ensure that your partner is comfortable about getting cuffed up;

Discuss It

Bondage must be consensual. Partners must agree on how they will go about the cuffing. They should both understand their roles because bondage sex is all about role-playing. You need to discuss your roles. They should also agree on the limits. Partners may agree on a safe word that can be said to stop the play if it is no longer enjoyable. Being in bondage is a helpless situation, and the bound partner is completely allowing themselves to be in a vulnerable position. A good bondage partner will respect the rules that have been set and not cross them. A couple should not introduce anything new during the play. Having a discussion helps in building excitement. 

Try Rehearsing the Encounter

Bondage is an act, and every action must have a rehearsal to be enjoyable. Try acting it out to clear out any signs of anxiety. Make your partner comfortable so that they will not be able to move and be completely under your command. Try talking dirty. Harris (1995) states that dirty talking is one of the most distinguishing features of bondage sex. When you are in bondage, you are in a fantasy world. You should also be able to use curse words and some pleasing words as if you were pleading for your freedom. If you both enjoy the rehearsal, you will enjoy the real experience.

Get the Right Cuffs

The cuffs will ensure you have an awesome bondage experience. You could improvise and use rope, tie, or leather straps. The partner can use a tie during bondage. Cuffs are superior to the other alternatives because they won’t give you tying issues.

Add Other Components

You could add other components such as blindfolds. You can buy a blindfold, or you could improvise and use a scarf. Bondage can be fun if your partner cannot see you and therefore is forced to drift into a fantasy land. You could also have lubricants to eliminate any chance of sexual pain. Some people also like pain, so they can have whips for the master to whip them. A feather will also be useful for tickling the partner lightly and getting the tactile sensation, usually arousing. When you get into bondage, make sure you have everything you need to have a great experience. 

Set the Mood

Have dim lights or switch off the lights and use candles. The candles can be scented. Unscented candles are still sufficient in providing dim light. Also, have dark-colored lingerie. 

Control the Orgasms

Controlling orgasms is a must because people enjoy bondage only when in sexual tension. Once the sexual tension has been eased, the game will end. Therefore, it is very important to control the climax so that the game can continue. If you have started the game and already have an orgasm, there is no way the game will continue for an hour. The couple would have already achieved the goal, and the bondage would seem silly because the mind is conscious. As soon as the partner realizes that you are about to reach the climax, he should try to stop it in what is known as ‘edging.

Be Familiar With the Activities

If you’re restraining your partner, you should know how to get them off. A nice bondage experience can end in panic if the key doesn’t open the cuffs. Items you use for the bondage are safe. Be careful about how you place them. 

One Restraint at a Time

Start small. Start with handcuffs one day, then move to ankle cuffs the next, especially if your partner has never been cuffed. Do not shock them by using many items at once. Keep adding more items bit by bit so that your partner is comfortable and probably suggests the items to use.

Conclusion

Bondage is not just a play that people get involved in for its sake. It can help the partners bond more. When a partner is in bondage, allowing the other partner to take over when they are in a vulnerable position is a sign of trust and security. Bondage is also useful in understanding sexual preferences. You can also find out if their partner is dominant or submissive. Bondage allows the partner to explore more sexual adventures.

References

Harris, D. (1995). Dirty Talk. The Baffler, (7), 91-97.

De Neef, N., Coppens, V., Huys, W., & Morrens, M. (2019). Bondage-discipline, dominance-submission, and sadomasochism (BDSM) from an integrative biopsychosocial perspective: A systematic review. Sexual Medicine, 7(2), 129-144.