Anal sex can be a lot of fun when done right. Some of the tips for anal sex and completely loving it include; being in the right position, pleasuring the clit, and bearing down. Anal sex is so much fun when done correctly with your penetrative partner. You can either have penetrative sex with your partner or decide to use sex toys to stimulate the anus. Most people fear anal sex because of the first experience they tried it. If you are a newbie in this anal game, you can make some mistakes if you do not read more about what is expected. However, you can still read more about it and get to experience a lifetime of sensations. Some of the tips to have include; Using The Right Lube According to Wilson et al. (2017), lubricants are used during procreative intercourse to moderate the amount of wetness in the genitals. Avoid using saliva as a lubricant when having anal sex with your partner. It may seem okay to spit the saliva on the penis and make it penetrate your anus, but the saliva is likely to dry off. It may make the sex rough after that. You do not want to feel some friction while having sex. it may also lead to fissures or hemorrhoids. Anal play requires enough lubricant on you and some on hand in case you run out of it. The best lube is the silicone-based one, as it takes time to wear off. It lasts longer on the penis and is slippery and slicker, thus getting into your anus. Have Some Anal Training Langer et al. (2003) stated that the butthole is a muscle that needs some training when planning to have anal sex. Without practice, the whole activity can be so painful and uncomfortable. The best anal play will only happen if you have tried solo play at once. Get some sex toys and a good amount of lube to avoid the frictions. Masturbation is the deliberate self-stimulation for sexual pleasure. According to Leonard (2010), masturbation is harmless and convenient for everybody. Try and get used to the feeling of the sex toy being inserted in and out of the ass. Get used to the feelings, and then move to bigger toys so that your ass can get used to it. When playing with your partner, you can always try and start small. Start with a finger, and then they can graduate slowly to the penis once you feel like the butt has gotten used to the fingers. Do not rush to start with the penis when you know that you have never tried it. Do It From a Point of Desire When planning for anal sex, you should do it because you want and desire it, not because your partner feels it. It is okay to make your partner happy, but you should also meet your desires. Making your partner happy will never have you satisfied immensely or be orgasmic. Do not feel bad not agreeing to it if you are not into it. You will feel uncomfortable when forced to do it. However, if you are really into the idea of trying it out, you are at a higher advantage of enjoying it more than you ever wished for. Have anal sex because it is what you are craving and not just because you want to try it. This will make you have a lot of fun having it and gt heavenly sensations. Pleasure Your Clit The penetration may happen in the anal, but you can still get mixed sensations if you try and pleasure the clit. Not only does it make anal sex sweeter but also easier. It also makes one feel a lot more relaxed. Clit stimulation will make you achieve an orgasm. Anal may feel good, but it will be more fun and great when mixed with clit stimulations. You can use your fingers or the vibrator on you, or get your partner to try and stimulate your clit by rubbing it while penetrating from the back. This will help you to receive double stimulation and some heavenly sensations. Bear Down This technique involves relaxing the butthole muscles. This makes it easier for you to loosen up, and the penetration will be made easier by doing so. You need to take an active role since you are on the receiving end. The good thing is that it will seem that you are inviting your partner’s penis inside, and it will be easier to penetrate. You are assured that the experience will be worth it by doing this technique and enjoying the position. It may even be so comfortable for you, and you are likely not to feel any pain. Get the Position Right Before engaging in anal sex, you need to figure out which position will work best for you. You should always give yourself time and try and explore different positions that will work best for you. If you feel like you are not in a perfect condition and you are uncomfortable, you can always switch things up and try another one that will work best for you. Some of the positions, like missionary, during anal will make it seem like hard work during penetration. It is always okay if you try and shift and adjust yourself until you are in a position that you feel is perfect for you. Conclusion Anal sex is the most challenging sex activity in the bedroom. One needs to be very careful when doing this sexual activity. Although it is challenging, it can always be great for you and pleasurable if done right. It requires a lot of effort, but at the same time, the effort makes the whole activity adventurous. The great part is how good one feels when one gets the hang of it. The fact that you are experimenting with new ways of stimulating yourself makes the whole activity more pleasurable and enjoyable. Remember that for this activity to be fun, you need to use lubricant on yourself. This is because the anus does not have a natural way of lubricating itself. If not, the whole activity will turn out painful and uncomfortable. You may end up getting fissures or hemorrhoids. References Wilson, S. L., Adam, J. K., & Krishna, S. B. N. (2017). 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