Sometimes a woman can be in love with a married man. She will want to have him and keep him. Therefore, when you love a married man, you need to have a strategy to get and keep him. Most women do not deliberately step out looking for married men. While some men act and pretend they are unmarried first to entice the woman they want, the women sometimes know the man’s marital status. Some men can send hints that he may be married, but still display his availability. The woman might find him irresistible, and keeping away from him might be difficult because she feels attracted to him. The married man may also be cautious and unsure about pursuing the woman because he knows he is off-limits. The woman, therefore, should try not to scare the man off and win his attention through the following vital steps; Step 1 Whenever you meet him, greet him and ensure you make eye contact. According to Brown, R. E. (2001), the first step to making friendships is through greetings. You are trying to grab his attention, so make an effort to make him notice you. Do not be too loud around him. Most married men do not like that. If you have seen his wife before or are acquainted with her, be everything that she is not, the man will notice you out of curiosity. Also, do not be too present. Make an appearance, then disappear on him so that he misses you. Make small talks with him at any chance you get. However, remember not to linger on too much. Ask him about his day. No matter what he talks about, it would be best if you did not give him the chance to mention his wife. Speak to him as if he were a bachelor so that he gets the confidence to communicate to you. Moreover, most married men do not like complications. They want to be involved with a woman that does not have any entanglements. Both of you will have a chance to talk about your significant others but not during this first stage. At this stage, you have both kept your people in the backseat and they do not exist. At this stage, there is no serious talk yet! Step 2 You keep appearing and disappearing, so the man has noticed you by now. He’s missing you and he is wondering when he will ask you for your number. Do not take the initiative of asking for it because he will do so if he likes you. Married men are usually shy, and most cannot make confident advances. It would help if you made him comfortable with you. Start wearing clothes that flaunt your best features. Most married men do not know if they intend to pursue a lady for casual sex or a serious relationship. They also wonder about their marriage since they do not want to get into a relationship and risk losing their marriage and maybe the new relationship. Therefore, they tend to be cautious. You are in love with him now. But you should not be very eager about having him. Send him subtle hints. Dust an imaginary web from his coat when he’s on the lift. Smile at him when your eyes meet and greet him warmly. If he ever greets you first, that will mean that you have managed to drag him from the first step. He recognizes you and you are now acquainted with each other. Make a joke and ask him if he knows your name to confirm if he knows you. If he does, that’s very good. If he does not recall your name, do not despair. Remind him. Step 3 If he asked for your number in step 2, you don’t have to move into this step. By now, you should have been communicating, gone out together for tea or dinner, or maybe you sexted and found yourself out of town and did the deed. If not, you still have a chance. You cannot chat about your children and your spouses yet. Anyone dating a married man is a selfish person. It is all about the man now. Most men seem to like ladies who play hard to get. He wants to believe that he pursued you. Allow him. If you get too aggressive, you will push him away. If you let him be the one controlling the relationship, he will be around for a long time because he will feel like it is his relationship. Do not call him unless he tells you to. You may think that calling him will make him love you more, but you will lose him when his wife picks up the call. Married men do not enter into clandestine relationships to let their wives know. The wives are usually the last ones to know. Help him keep his secret because you knowingly got yourself into it knowing he was married. Conclusion Is it ever right to get involved with married men? No. but sometimes we do not choose whom to be attracted to. But you need to tread carefully. When you are in a relationship with a married man, do not hold him too tight because you will lose him. He needs to adjust to his new double life as a man involved with two women. Or multiple women. Just know your place. You do not go after a married man and start demanding that he leaves his wife for you. He will leave you. You give him your best and let him decide. References Brown, R. E. (2001). The process of community-building in distance learning classes. Journal of asynchronous learning networks, 5(2), 18-35.