20 RULES FOR SUBMISSIVES TO MAKE YOUR DOM SUB RELATIONSHIP INTENSE

Have you ever thought of venturing into BDSM games and do not know the submissive rules to guide you? Here are some of the rules for submissive to make your Dom Sub relationship intense. These rules include safe & sane rules, playtime rules, and submissive rules for every behavior.

Couples play certain roles when in the BDSM scene. Submissive is mostly known to be the less authoritative, unlike the dominant partners. It is essential to consider BDSM rules when participating in it like any other sexual activity. Generally, submissives take orders from their dominant partners; they need that to protect them. While most people think that these rules are meant for submissive only, both parties can use them for comfort and safety play. The submissive partners understand what they are supposed to do in the BDSM scene and will do anything to ensure they achieve it.

On the other hand, the dominant partner uses these rules to implement punishments and provide training and rewards to their subs. Applying these rules can participate in insane, consensual, and safe BDSM activities. The essential thing is choosing the best rules that will work perfectly for both parties.

Rules Versus Protocols

You will likely encounter protocols if you go through any dominant/submissive relationship. Protocols are types of rules enforced in a specified community or situation.,  but in some scenarios, protocols are similar to rules since they cover the same thing for BDSM games. This includes symbols, speech & writing rules, clothing, and greetings. Generally, including low, medium, and high protocols in your scene can help determine when you are allowed to use the rules.

High Protocols

High protocols are rules applied during dinners and other related events (Weiss, 2011). They are one of the most rigorous rules. These rules include serving, expectations for speech, and restrictions on speech.

Medium Protocols

Beres & MacDonald (2015) noted that medium protocol rules are ruled used during a play or public events in BDSM plays. These rules can also include prioritizing essential BDSM elements. Moreover, the medium protocol includes a certain behavior of the submissive partner towards the dominants.

Low Protocols

Low protocols are one of the most relaxed and amazing rules. They are commonly applied during vanilla and informational situations. Also, submissive partners must be accountable to their dominants and protocols in different temptations.

Devising Your Rules

Most people engaging in BDSM scenes or kink often focus on their boundaries and interests, including submissive rules. Non-kinky relationships can learn different things from this. Having an honest conversation with your partner keeps both parties safe and satisfied;  you can consider asking for rules before venturing into a BDSM relationship. Keep these rules whenever you want to explore BDSM games. Ensure you learn and understand how each rule operates and how they have been broken. Also, all the submissive partners need to follow the rules implemented. However, the dominant partner should pay attention to correct the interactions that might accrue without any challenge. Some of the rules need modification to work practically.

Submissive Rules

Submissive Rules for a Healthy and Happy Relationship

Here are fair rules that will enhance safe, healthy, and happiness in your dominant and submissive relationship. You can apply these rules in your relationship. However, do not consider a relationship where one party does not respect these rules. You can consider these rules if your relationship is more casual;

• The submissive endeavors to share everything they are thinking of.
• The submissive promises respectful, clear, and honest communication with their dominants (Barker, 2013).
• The submissive partners will know and understand themselves.
• They will care for their mental and physical health
• The sub endeavors to act of their free will without any force
• The submissive has rules and boundaries that need to be respected.

Submissive Rules for a Safe, Sane, and Consensual Relationship

You no longer need the basic rules once you are an advanced bondage player. However, when you start experimenting with BDSM and kink, these rules can be helpful;

• The sub-partner will willingly agree to the BDSM relationship and activities involved. They will also understand how the consents can be reversed, including safe words and halting the contract.
• The submissive will not try altering the power dynamics by topping from below or bottom (trying to control the scene).
• The submissive partners will trust and depend on their dominant for care during and after the scene.
• The submissive will choose the simplest safe words to use during BDSM scenes.
• The subs endeavor to respect and obey their dominant’s request or commands, except for those that might harm them.
• The submissive will agree to take in any discipline or punishment from their dominants.

Rules for a Submissive During Playtime

The submissive rules before and during the BDSM scene build on sub-rules discussed already. They include;

• The submissive partner must prepare, cleanse and groom well as directed before the scene.
• The sub partner will be available for inspection as directed by their dominant for a specific position
• The submissive must ask for permission from their dominants if they want to masturbate. This can be done by writing journals and sending them to the dom.
• The submissive partner will ask for permission if they want to achieve orgasms.
• The submissive will adhere to any direction given to them by their dominants in the BDSM scene.

Submissive Rules for Everyday Behavior

You can introduce BDSM plays into your sex life. Consider having rules that will cover different activities for you. However, these rules are greatly different from the playtime rules since they might not be dealing with BDSM or sex. Here are some of the rules;

• The submissive partner must wear their relationship symbol or collar to show ownership (Greenebaum, 2010).
• The submissive partner must address their dominant partner by their agreed honorific. They must also respond to the nicknames assigned to them.
• The submissive cannot buy anything without their dominant’s permission.
• The submissive partner must ask for permission before using the bathroom or eating.
• The sub must allow the dominants to make any order, especially when ordering food or drinks.
• The submissive partners must masturbate before sleeping and send the photos to their dominants.
• The submissive must dress according to their dominant’s wishes, including makeup, dress, and hair.

Conclusion

BDSM plays are interesting if you stick to the rules. The sub and the dom adhere to the rules to enjoy sexual activities. You can introduce them in your bedroom, but it’s important to inform your partner before.

Reference:

Barker, M. (2013). Consent Is A Grey Area? A Comparison Of Understandings Of Consent In Fifty Shades Of Grey And On The BDSM Blogosphere. Sexualities, 16(8), 896-914.

Beres, M. A., & Macdonald, J. E. (2015). Talking About Sexual Consent: Heterosexual Women And BDSM. Australian Feminist Studies, 30(86), 418-432.

Greenebaum, J. B. (2010). Training Dogs And Training Humans: Symbolic Interaction And Dog Training. Anthrozoös, 23(2), 129-141.Weiss, M. (2011). Techniques Of Pleasure. In Techniques Of Pleasure. Duke University Press.