If you want to find out what kinks your partner fancies, the ‘would you rather’ game will always be ideal for you. Most partners find it difficult to communicate and speak out about the type of fetishes and kinks that they are into. More importantly, if you are in a new relationship, your partner will find it hard to express themselves by fearing how you would view them or just believing that you will judge them if you get to know what they fancy. These questions will always come in handy for you. You may introduce them as a game, and you will get to hear what they like and what they hate. This is always a guarantee that you will get to know more about your partner than you ever thought. It will also help you bond. Some of these questions are; Would You Rather Meet Strangers And Have a Threesome With Them Or Choose a Stranger That You Would Want To Have Sex With For the Whole Year? This question will let you know if your partner is into having threesomes or if they are the type to have one person in their lives and dedicate their life to them. It will also help you know if they are the non-monogamous type of people. According to Conley et al. (2013), non-monogamous relationships are when partners consent to be together but can also see or have relations with other people and are honest. Would You Rather Sex Chat With Your Girlfriend Or Receive Seductive Nude Pictures? This will help you know what your partner loves. If you hear that they love sex texts, you will try and introduce dirty and sex texts to them when you are chatting. If they love nudes, you will try and take seductive pictures of them in either a bikini or naked. Levine (2013) defined sexting as the process by which one share sexually suggestive pictures and messages through mobile phones or media. Would You Rather Have An Orgy Party With People You Don’t Know Or Have Penetrative Sex With Your Exes? The answer will tell you if they really can try to have sex with strangers or if they prefer having sex with the people they once dated. Would You Rather Have Silent Sex Or Have a Partner Who Talks Dirty During Sex? This will tell you what they prefer during sex. You may find that, at times, you are used to being silent when you are having sex, but they maybe prefer you to be talkative and whisper dirty talks to their ears. Maybe they get turned on by the noise. Harris, D. (1995) stated that dirty talking is one of the most distinguishing features of sex. You might also get that they prefer the silence you always have, and they hate the talks as it turns them off. Would You Rather Be Intimate With Your Boss Or Your Friend? If you have ever been insecure with your partner and feel like they are cheating on you with their friend, this question will come in handy. The answer will not necessarily mean they are cheating, but it wouldn’t hurt to know their feelings at that time. Would You Rather Be Dominant Or Submissive? This will help you know if your partner loves to be the one in charge, have all the power over you, and dominate, or if they prefer being the one who is always on the receiving end and being submissive to you. It will gauge you to know if what you have been doing has always been okay with them or if they would want to switch things up. Would You Rather Be Chained Or Be Blindfolded In Bed? BDSM involves several activities, as explained by De Neef et al. (2019). If you have ever tried to chain or blindfold them, you will get to know which one they preferred at that time. Once you find out, it will be easier for you to have sex, choose the preferred activity they love, and perform it on them. Would You Rather Have Anal Sex Or Oral Sex? If your partner loves oral sex, then more sexual activities like giving a blowjob will be included when you are having sex. If the answer is anal, you will major in sexual activities. Would You Rather Be Caught Having Sex At Work Or Masturbating At Work? This question will help you find out if they are into risky and adventurous activities. They may be the kind of people who are silent but are into trying new and risky things. Depending on the answer, you might ask them if they are ready to get down and try to see if you will get caught. You can either masturbate or have sex. Masturbation is the deliberate self-stimulation for sexual pleasure. According to Leonard (2010), masturbation is harmless and convenient for everybody. Would You Rather Lick Chocolate Off My Vagina Or Ice Cream Off My Butt? It is just a way of finding out if they are a person who is interested in oral sex or anal sex. If they answer that they prefer the first option and you have been forcing them on the latter, you can minimize the chances of asking them for anal sex. You should not force it on them if they have not been into it. Conclusion If you are ever in a matter where you do not know any of your partner’s preferences or fetishes, you can try and introduce these games. You may be scared or uncomfortable asking them what they would love most of the time. You can ask them if you would play a game of ‘ would you rather just to break the boredom. In the real sense, you are trying to get to know them better. You will end up knowing more than you would have known if it was just a basic talk that you were having. However, be sure that your partner is in the mood for such games, or they will just be giving you answers just for its sake. References Conley, T. D., Moors, A. C., Matsick, J. L., & Ziegler, A. (2013). The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non‐monogamous romantic relationships. Leonard, A. (2010). An Investigation Of Masturbation And Coping Style. In 38th Annual Western Pennsylvania Undergraduate Psychology Conference. Levine, D. (2013). 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